Debunking the Myth of the Nuclear FamilyValerie Lehr
The flaw in the fight for gay and lesbian marriage rights, argues Lehr in Queer Family Values, lies in its failure to call into question the forms of oppressiongender, racial, and economicthat lead society to privilege the nuclear family. Lehr calls for activists to counter conservative discourses that see the nuclear familywhat Lehr considers a socially defined institution that works to maintain, in various ways, inequalities among peopleas the only responsible and mature family alternative. She asks for an approach to family issues and individual liberty that challenges power rather than demands access to privilege. She advocates social policies that enhance the freedom of all people, not simply those gay and lesbian adults seeking to be part of the dominant vision of family in our society.
Analyzing recent works on family, gender, race, and class, Lehr shapes a theory of rights, freedom, and democracy that can liberate us from the strictures of conservative hegemony. She also provides practical examples of how activists can work for a more compassionate and caring society. She devotes a chapter, for example, to the responsibilities activists have to lesbian and gay youths, whounlike other children, who might find refuge from social injustice at homemost often find in the traditional American home homophobia and isolation. Asserting that family care should be seen as a community function, Queer Family Values offers an alternative political strategy focused not on gaining rights, but on enhancing democracy and equality in private life.
"Lehr's discussion of the political stakes in sexual immutability is invaluable.... Lehr challenges virtually every comfortable element in contemporary lesbian and gay politics. Along with immutability and the desirability of marriage, she challenges readers to come to terms with polygamy, racial differences in understandings of sexuality, and violence within marriage."
—American Political Science Review
"Throughout, Lehr cogently argues that the 'traditional' concepts of marriage, family, gender roles and sexuality that conservatives are trying to defend are unstable and often detrimental to those involved. In response, she postulates a new 'radical democratic politics' that would 'not bring the state into people's lives, but use state power to enable citizens to have the resources that they need to make real choices.' ...While much of the book is an explication of political and social theory, Lehr's prescriptions for implementing her ideas are often concrete and practical."
"Lehr offers a double critique. This study is both critical to the main social family values as to the mainstream gay movement. ...this book makes us think about our own presuppositions. Therefore, Lehr has succeeded in realizing her intention."
—Archives of Sexual Behavior